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Six Questions from Café Philos

(1) What to you is the single most boring thing in the world?

Ennui itself. Complete lack of motivation, when every day is just like the last day and you can’t imagine doing anything at all… it’s the worst feeling. Beyond that, what do I look at that I find completely boring? The Labour Party! It’s not a conscious reaction; I just switch off and start drifting whenever it comes into the conversation. Other things: cleaning the bathroom, or being expected to read through a long list of terms and conditions or other legalese, particularly when I’m in a hurry to get things done.

(2) Your favorite time of night?

It’s that time just before bed, after checking all the doors are locked and the cats are fed and the plants are inside and safe from Giant Snails and the dishes are in the dishwasher (or have been put away) and there’s no food on the counter that could be in the fridge. It’s the moment you can finally pull the drawbridge up and do what you want. Suddenly the night is alive with possibilities.

(3) When was the last time you felt admiration for someone? What was it for?

I’ve felt admiration for a lot of different people over the past few days — I’m not sure I can single anyone out. My mother for her strength, balance and resilience. My sister for her hard-working and mostly good-humoured reliability. A friend for his kindness, intelligence and his curiosity about the world around him. People all over the globe for being honest and saying what they think despite all of the unmerited scorn and discouragement that comes their way.

(4) Can a couple argue and still respect each other?

Of course they can. 🙂 So long as they listen (even if it’s only eventually), are honest, and are not too hard on the other.

(5) What, if anything, is the difference between compassion and kindness?

I suspect the way I see both of these isn’t how they are defined, but perhaps that’s has something to do with the contexts they are normally used in. It seems to me that while one can have compassion in general, kindness is specific. You might choose to be kind to someone in particular or in a particular situation, while compassion is an attitude of mind. Or so I think? It’s certainly a chillier, more distant quality, whereas kindness is warm.

(6) When was the last time you learned a key life lesson from someone? What was it?

I have a feeling I’m still learning things from people and situations. I’m unwilling to talk about how they are making a difference till I’ve got far enough away to judge if the changes are good or not. 😛 Actually I can come up with a recent and not-too personal example… Jordan Peterson. Two things he said are famous the world over: ‘clean your room’ and ‘always tell the truth’.

Questions by Paul at Café Philos… many thanks for the prompts. 🙂

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2 thoughts on “Six Questions from Café Philos

  1. First, thanks so much for responding to the daily questions!

    Second, about compassion. Fascinating response! I’m not before heard the notion that the distinction between them might be chiefly one of circumstances and application. I also think you’re onto something about compassion being more remote — seems to me that it’s more emotionally detached.

    Labour boring? I hadn’t thought of parties as boring but then you mentioned it. Bingo! You’re spot on!

    I read up awhile back on the science of couples. Turns out they can ague every hour and still will stick together — so long as they respect each other. Which is what I think you were getting at there. You’re a keen observer.

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